Daily Bites: Overcoming Obstacles
The Daily Bites
are short (1-2 pg) mini-lessons
with specific ideas and suggestions
for weight loss and other diet
issues. Sent 2 or 3 times a week via
e-mail. I weave in suggestions
using EFT and NLP techniques
which I teach here and use in
my private practice. To learn
EFT download the free EFT for Weight Loss packet, and sign up to get The Daily Bites: EFT for Weight Loss delivered to your in-box.
Ah, bumps in the road. We all have them,
but have you noticed how when you decide
to make a change, things suddenly start
to go all wrong? Your spouse or children
may suddenly be impatient or demanding,
your spouse may suddenly be unreasonable
(oh, right, that never happens), work is
piling up and it just seems like the whole
world is crashing around you.
Bumps, obstacles, hassles: that's just life! Things are going
wrong and needing to be fixed fairly regularly
yet they don't become hopeless. You don't throw up your hands in despair when you get a flat tire; you get it fixed one way or another. When you're trying to make a change in your routine though, suddenly these bumps become so much more noticeable.
That's your brain playing
tricks. It wants you to knock off this nonsense
about making a change. It wants you to just
go back to the way you were, when everything
was no nice and easy. That's why there's such a strong tendency to want to put it off, "I'll do it tomorrow,"
or "I'll start on Monday," but
that Monday never comes. Or, if it does you last three
days, then say, "Oh, no! I've blown it. I'll never
take off this weight. I'll start again on Monday."
Be prepared because this happens to us
all. If you're making an effort to get more
work done, the phone starts ringing, if
you want to make your dollars stretch a
little farther, you suddenly need new tires
and the water heater breaks. If it's not
one thing, it's another. Be prepared.
The Day I Decided to Stop Smoking
"Don't be sidetracked by obstacles; expect them! Then you can use EFT to find your way over, around, under or even straight
Many years ago I finally decided to quit
smoking. The decision was made. That first
day everything went wrong. At a restaurant
the waitress took forever to even come to the table and take our order,
then the food took even longer to arrive. I couldn't smoke while I waited,
so time ticked by so slowly I could count
I didn't know what to do with
my hands. I kept wanting to reach in my
purse, but had to deny the impulse. Later at
work it was awful: people were upset, orders
weren't done, everything was coming apart
at the seams, and I had to have picked that day
to quit! In the movie Airplane Lloyd Bridges' character
kept popping up when it looked most hopeless, "Looks like I picked a
lousy day to quit ..." No matter what
day you choose, it will seem as if it's
a lousy day to quit. But, I endured. The challenge that day was to get through one day. "I will get through this today and tomorrow I can decide if I want to do it again."
Even though it may feel hopeless, all is not lost. This is only temporary
and if you get through the first rough spots,
you're going to make it. The sense of accomplishment
the first time you stand fast, say no, and
push yourself away from your temptation,
is so powerful. The next day you'll
feel stronger, more sure of yourself, knowing
you did it once you can do it again. Build
on these small wins until one day you're
looking back at your old behavior and thinking,
"That wasn't so difficult."
This scene plays out whether you want to lose weight, get more fit , run farther, jump higher, or grow a beard (man it's itchy at first). You can get through the first few uncomfortable moments.
You may still wish you had your old way
of dealing with life's little stresses,
like food, drink, smoke, whatever. But today,
just for today you're going to get through
it by yourself. Tens of thousands of people
every day get through life without too much
food and so can you.
Today make a decision right now about how
you will handle yourself the rest of this
day (or this hour), and then stick to it.
This is basic training and there is no failure.
You will do as you've decided because you've
decided that is what you want to do. Tomorrow,
decided again. Everyday make as many different,
separate decisions as necessary, but
keep deciding to succeed and you will succeed.
Failures and lapses are meaningless. When
they happen tell yourself, "Big deal,"
and then go right back to deciding for the
How EFT Help Make Change Easier
Indecision: When you want
to make a change but you are
afraid to try because you might fail.
"Even though I'm not sure I want to
change, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though the last time I tried
it didn't work, I deeply and completely
"Even though I know I won't follow
through, I deeply and completely accept
When Everything is Going
"Even though I don't think I can make
it, I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though nothing is going right,
I deeply and completely accept myself."
"Even though I just want to ... ,
I deeply and completely accept myself."
Knowing the Right Words for EFT
In the Daily Bites I make suggestions,
but it is up to you to say what you mean.
This is necessary since I cannot know what
you specifically need, that's only possible
in one-on-one weight loss coaching work, or in EFT for weight loss groups where we
can all work together on our personal issues.
If you want more in-depth
work to get to your core issues, use
this form to send me a quick note, or
call me to discuss your options. It could
be only one or two primary issues are blocking
your path to permanent weight loss, and
once those are cleared, you are able to
make any change you've been wanting.